That time has come again...venting time.
Yet again, the same person has cut my grandma with her words. And I am so angry and sad for her.
My grandma called her to see how she was doing, if she was ok. Because, my grandma didn't see her working today. You see, she is our mail carrier.
My grandma said that the conversation started off really good. But, it turned nasty quickly afterwards.
My grandma was verbally slaped over the last time that we were invited to her house to see my grandmas new grandchild (whom, by the by, is just perfect and beautiful!!). We left, relatively, early because she was not feeling well at all. I could see it on her face. When I asked her in private, she told me that her back was in so much pain (she has three disk that are no longer good) and she had a really bad headache. So, I asked if someone could take us home. I told them that we had forgotten her eye medication...which was the truth onto it self. My grandma told me not to tell them about her other pains. My aunt had a mini fit. But we came home.
Since then, my aunt has been a bitch with my grandma. And, today, she threw the fact that we came home early in her face. And, told her that that was the reason why she doesn't invite her (my grandma) over anymore. "Why would I invite" us?
Now, I know this hurt my grandma so much. But, all she said was that "only god knew the reason why we left."
And this is nothing. Everytime she calls she makes similar or worst comments to my grandma. It has gotten to the point where my grand has become uncomfortable talking to, let alone visiting, her at her house.
It is really sad. My grandma has always had her on a pedestal and now she is so hurt.
My aunt will even reprimand my grandma over her mentioning one or another of her sons. My aunt acts like a 4 year old chid yelling at her mom, "YOU LOVE HIM MORE THAN ME!!!". It is ridiculous!!! My grandma loves all of her children like all...most mothers do. Even the crazy ones. My aunt doesn't know how much my grandma has chastised the one son, whom she herself has said is not right in the head, when he would start talking crap about my aunt (he doesn't anymore, thank goodness). And she still loves ALL of her children so much.
Now, my grandma will stop everything from 10:30 to whatever time, usully 12-12:30, to see my aunt work from her bedroom window. She used to wave. But, she had to stop waving because my aunt told her to. My aunt didn't want to seem crazy waving at her and other people not knowing who she was waving to. So, now, my grandma looks from deep inside her bedroom with the curtain open just enough until my aunt's mail car has pulled out from across the street making sure my aunt doesn't see her. My grandma worries so much for her but is scared that if my aunt sees her, she will be yelled at again.
Why would it matter what anyone else thought about you waving?? Who cares!!! I always waved at my grandma on my way to work from the street. Some people thought I was crazy too, I'm sure. Others thought I was waving at them and would wave back...so I would wave at them too, thinking that that small action maybe made their day. I know it always made my grandma happy. Something so small but full of so much hope for her.
Why are people so cruel???!!!!?
Well, once again I leave you with a thought/request...do not treat those that love you badly. And don't be surprised if, when you do, they do NOT want to be around you anymore. Why would anyone want to be around someone who cuts them down more often then not??
Be kind, be caring, smile and love. And most importantly, hug the person you love right now.
Hugs to all!!!
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