What is wrong with people??

That time has come again...venting time.

Yet again, the same person has cut my grandma with her words. And I am so angry and sad for her.
My grandma called her to see how she was doing, if she was ok. Because, my grandma didn't see her working today. You see, she is our mail carrier.
My grandma said that the conversation started off really good. But, it turned nasty quickly afterwards.
My grandma was verbally slaped over the last time that we were invited to her house to see my grandmas new grandchild (whom, by the by, is just perfect and beautiful!!). We left, relatively, early because she was not feeling well at all. I could see it on her face. When I asked her in private, she told me that her back was in so much pain (she has three disk that are no longer good) and she had a really bad headache. So, I asked if someone could take us home. I told them that we had forgotten her eye medication...which was the truth onto it self. My grandma told me not to tell them about her other pains. My aunt had a mini fit. But we came home.
Since then, my aunt has been a bitch with my grandma. And, today, she threw the fact that we came home early in her face. And, told her that that was the reason why she doesn't invite her (my grandma) over anymore. "Why would I invite" us?
Now, I know this hurt my grandma so much. But, all she said was that "only god knew the reason why we left."
And this is nothing. Everytime she calls she makes similar or worst comments to my grandma. It has gotten to the point where my grand has become uncomfortable talking to, let alone visiting, her at her house.
It is really sad. My grandma has always had her on a pedestal and now she is so hurt.
My aunt will even reprimand my grandma over her mentioning one or another of her sons. My aunt acts like a 4 year old chid yelling at her mom, "YOU LOVE HIM MORE THAN ME!!!". It is ridiculous!!! My grandma loves all of her children like all...most mothers do. Even the crazy ones. My aunt doesn't know how much my grandma has chastised the one son, whom she herself has said is not right in the head, when he would start talking crap about my aunt (he doesn't anymore, thank goodness). And she still loves ALL of her children so much.
Now, my grandma will stop everything from 10:30 to whatever time, usully 12-12:30, to see my aunt work from her bedroom window. She used to wave. But, she had to stop waving because my aunt told her to. My aunt didn't want to seem crazy waving at her and other people not knowing who she was waving to. So, now, my grandma looks from deep inside her bedroom with the curtain open just enough until my aunt's mail car has pulled out from across the street making sure my aunt doesn't see her. My grandma worries so much for her but is scared that if my aunt sees her, she will be yelled at again.

Why would it matter what anyone else thought about you waving?? Who cares!!! I always waved at my grandma on my way to work from the street. Some people thought I was crazy too, I'm sure. Others thought I was waving at them and would wave back...so I would wave at them too, thinking that that small action maybe made their day. I know it always made my grandma happy. Something so small but full of so much hope for her.
Why are people so cruel???!!!!?

Well, once again I leave you with a thought/request...do not treat those that love you badly. And don't be surprised if, when you do, they do NOT want to be around you anymore. Why would anyone want to be around someone who cuts them down more often then not??
Be kind, be caring, smile and love. And most importantly, hug the person you love right now.
Hugs to all!!!

Action speak louder than words

Last November, on the second to be exact, I got up to go to work as I did then. That day being my birthday, my grandma got up to wish me a happy birthday. That's when I noticed that she looked exhausted. So I told her to go back to bed, since it was around 6 am. As she wished me a happy birthday, she looked up at me and gave me a faint smile. Then her eyes rolled to the back of her head and she collapsed in my arms. I cannot say enough how scary that was. She is the only mother I know. I called 911 and they sent the paramedics. After a two weeks stay and an operation to release some fluid from her skull, I am glad that she is doing much better now.
She can no longer be left alone because she is no longer the person she was, physically. But, her mind and her humor are just as sharp as always. I gladly gave up working to take care of her. I honestly don't know how we make it through without much money coming in, but we do. And we are very happy (we make each other laugh so hard all the time) and I see it as a gift that I can spend my time with her as I do. And, it seems that all we have is each other.
We do have a lot of family...most live near by. When she was sick, everyone was all in with the support and love. And everyone agreed to help. The fact that they don't, doesn't matter. Some help when they can. What kills me is that only a few call her to say hello. And the ones the do, make comments that hurt her so much. She doesn't say anything because she doesn't want to say something that will anger them and then they will stop calling. One of these people has done that many times in the past. And she has made me promise that I will not say a thing.
Now, all of the family say they love her dearly. But, their actions all speak louder than their words. And, sometimes, their words cutt very deep.

Since, I promised not to say a word, I decided to write it down here. Best part about doing it here is that no one will read it. :-D

It hurts when an uncle snaps at her for being her. Or my aunt, for that matter. And it frustrates me that my hands are tied to do or say anything about it. And then it kills me when I see the pain in het eyes. Then I get mad because they do NOT notice it. How could they, they don't spend enough time with her to recognize the fact that she is doing all she can to cover the pain. But, then, she always glances at me. With that look telling me to let it go. And, with some effort, I must.
Then, there are my cousins. Now, I know that they are ALL über busy. One is so beyond busy, it is a wonder she can make time for her husband and son...she is amazing. So yes, I understand that. But, out of all of my cousins, she is the only one whom I had a heart to heart conversation about grandma and I understand her lack of communication...100%. And my heart goes out to her. But, all of the others...not even a minute call to ask, "hey, still breathing?". That would be all that she would need. Even if it were one call a month. Not even the cousins whom she helped raise call.
Now, again, one of them just had his first little girl. And that alone, takes all your time. And my grandma has waited for 29 years to see his baby. But, even after the birth, no one said we are going to pick you up and take you to see her. She actually told me that she hoped to see her before she died. I don't think I can show here or anywhere how that broke my heart.
She has a total of four great grand children. And is only, what you can call, close to two of them really. Well, like I said, the fourth was just born three weeks ago? But she loves them all so much.
But, as she falls asleep, she sometimes mentions how, if it wasn't for me, she would be alone. I always tell her that that is not so. We have a large family and they all love her.
But, as she has told me a few times, actions speak louder than words. And she falls asleep.
She is right, actions speak volumes. She has taught me to be a loving, caring, forgiving, and happy person. But, she also taught me to pull away from those that take advantage and hurt others. Also, taught me that just because I am a forgiving person does not mean that I have to stay and put up with anyone inflicting pain over and over again.
The sad part is when I see her doing what she has taught me with certain family...like saying she is not feeling well when they invite her to a BBQ (AND, they get angry with her about that).
It is sad and breaks my heart. But, like she has said many times, we may not have much and we may be alone, but we have each other and we are happy just the two of us. And, I have and will continue to make sure that she is healthy and happy for as long as it takes. If it were up to me, it would be forever.

Like I said, I know no one will read this. That gave me the gas to vent as I have. BUT, if by chance, someone does read this, thank you for doing so and PLEASE take the time right now, call your mother, your father, your grandparent (s), and tell them you love them. Treat them with much love, care and respect. Some times that is all they need, a call to let them know that someone else cares too.
LOVE them!

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